The Light of The Moon
I never really noticed how much people like to hurry until I
became a truck driver. It’s also of interest to me how the road can level the
playing field. We are all one people with a common goal: Trying to get
somewhere. Sans the different the classes of automobiles, we are all just
little people going about our business. It was soon after I began holding the
wheel of an eighteen-wheeler that I gave up the nonsense that is defined as the
rush. Paying attention to the beautiful things and the people I interact with holds
more importance with me than sticking to a schedule. Amazingly enough, I always
seem to arrive at my destination.
There were many destinations in my travels this past week,
thirty-three to be exact. In a weird twist of fate, I began the week by
delivering to one of my favorite stores on Monday, and saw them again on
Friday. It’s a rarity to see the same account twice in one week. Actually, it
wasn’t a store. It was a warehouse for Laskey’s furniture in Farrell, Pennsylvania.
For those not versed in geography, Farrell is a small town tucked away an hour
north of Pittsburgh almost right on the border of Ohio.
I enjoy going there because it’s a good ride from our
warehouse in Leesport. Usually, there are many decent things to see along the
way. Interstate 80 is the magic carpet that provides a smooth and straight
path. Once I am there, the people in the warehouse are a good bunch of guys to
work with. When I visit, I usually bring a whole lot of the world’s best
furniture with me, so we get to spend a fair amount of time together.
I am especially fond of the warehouse manager. I’m not good
with names. I tend to remember people by the way they treat me, their
mannerisms in general. He is the kind of guy who projects peace even though he
stands a good foot taller than me. He’s never in a mad hurry, and he always has
a smile on his face. Have you ever noticed two people in your life who not only
look alike, but also have the same air about them? He reminds me of an
acquaintance in my home town who owns a local BP gas station. He is a nice guy
too, and both gentlemen remind me of each other when I see them. I don’t know why
that is important to mention other than I find it to be another mysterious
working of our universe.
My manager friend and
I talk about common things like the weather, and sometimes his hobby of gun
collecting or hunting. The last we spoke, he was heading to a show in Ohio
where he hoped to add to his collection. I cannot forget the first time I
delivered to their warehouse. It is a long red building that sits too close to
the road in my opinion. On my first visit, I backed into the dock that faces
the street and my truck was halfway in the northbound lane of travel. “So be
it,” I thought and went inside. When my friend saw how I was parked, he
informed me that I would have to unhook from the trailer because the cops in
town were real sticklers. They would come by and create a ruckus. He guaranteed
that yelling and tickets would ensue, so I followed his instructions and
disassembled my combination, parking my truck next to the trailer. I have been
in similar situations where customers have flipped out for my parking skills.
My friend in Farrell wasn’t like that. He told me the way things were in his
usual kind manner with a side order of understanding my predicament as a truck
driver. I like that about him.
On a future visit, he came outside and taught me how to back
in so that I would not have to unhook. He stood next to my machine, and pointed
where I should let the driver’s side rear trailer tire roll. It went up and
over the sidewalk. I cranked the steering wheel hard to the right as he
instructed. Just like that, my truck was parked at the dock door at a horrid
ninety degree angle, but safely off of the road. More importantly, it was out
of the eyes of the local police department. Not only did I use that procedure
on every visit thereafter; I also employed that technique successfully at
similarly placed docks in my other travels. In addition, I went on to become a
driver trainer. I stood outside and pointed to my students where the trailer
tire should roll as they learned to back a combination into a tough place. It
is amazing how people can impact our lives and the lives of others by the
simple act of being pleasant.
On my visit this past Monday, I noticed that the warehouse
manager was not there. Instead, a guy with ten years less life experience than
me handled the job of checking off everything as we unloaded. I did not find
this unusual because I knew the manager to be a hunter. I’m not a hunter only
because I did not grow up with it. I did, however, know that the deer season
had just begun, and he was probably out taking advantage of it. It was less of
a big deal because the younger gentleman is nice too, as are the rest of the
crew.
On Friday morning, I showed up again. It was my first stop
of the day and I noticed my friend was absent again. This time, I asked the man
who had been standing in for my friend just where he was.
He looked right at me and said quietly, “He passed away.”
“What? What happened?” I could literally feel the emotion on
my face as I tried to untangle what he just told me.
“We’re not entirely sure. There was something with his
heart. He went into the hospital one morning and never came out.”
“But he wasn’t that old.”
His voice was so quiet that I had trouble hearing his
response. Something about fifties is all I could tell. I told him that was a
shame, and he agreed. How could he not? He worked with him daily and knew him
much better than I.
After we finished and said our good-byes, I drove away in
shock. The news had placed a terrible damper upon a day that otherwise turned
out to be pretty good. I pictured him and his smile with sadness. He was young,
and left without the benefit of his enjoying his retirement. That always
bothers me when people pass too soon. I could see him standing at the back of
the trailer as we unloaded. He used to lean inside, and read small numbers on a
piece of furniture from an impossible distance. I used to ask him how he did
that, and teased him that he had the eyes of an Eagle. Most of all, I
remembered just how nice he was to me.
He was a little person, just like me, and probably led a
quiet life much as I do. Nonetheless, I wondered if anyone had considered the
impact he had on the lives of other people. I envisioned hundreds of homes all
at once. Did the people sitting on sofas, eating at tables or sleeping on beds consider
that he had a part in the orchestra that made it all possible? Probably not. Did
people read or hear the news of his death with sadness, knowing that he was
such a kind soul? Possibly. I know that I did.
When I arrived home at the late hour of 11pm Friday night, I
used Google to search for his obituary. I was able to find it. I learned his
name was Daniel, and that he was only 57 years old. Even though I was at Laskey’s
warehouse twice this week, I learned that I hadn’t been there in a few months.
Daniel passed away on July 6th. I know I wasn’t there since July without
checking my logbooks because I would have questioned his absence, at least to
myself. I don’t know why it bothers me that it took this long for me to find
out of his untimely death, but it does.
So, Friday was a good day other than hearing such
unfortunate news at the start of the day. As I drove home on the Pennsylvania
Turnpike, I thought about my departed friend as I watched the moon rise from
above the northeast horizon. It was a magical thing to go along with my
thoughts. As more proof that I am never in a rush, or concerned with arrival
times (even on a Friday), I stopped and took a picture of the moon. (It is
posted below. It will look better if you click on it.) It may not be the best picture because I did not have my tripod
with me. To me it does not matter. The simple act of noticing the more
wonderful things and people in life is what is most important.
As I neared my exit, and the moon became higher in the sky,
I had one overlying thought of the ride back to our warehouse. Having the moon
along for the journey made the path ahead a little brighter, and the task at
hand a little easier to bear. It was not unlike my warehouse manager friend who
has left our world too soon. May he rest in peace.
This picture is dedicated to the memory of Daniel Gerda (5.26.1955-7.6.2012)
Comments
Suspect you've already done this, but hope you've printed out copies of your post and sent it to Daniel Gerda's co-workers, and c/o them to his family.
It will be so comforting to them. They will love hearing of the impact Mr. Gerda made on you through even more casual contact, and that you miss him too.
A client wrote a lovely letter to our family after my dad, her attorney, passed and it's the letter I remember most, after all these years.
May we all find, and appreciate, the Daniel Gerdas in our lives. They make up for a lot of the other fellow travelers one encounters.
Look forward to reading your blog! Great photo of the moon.
Best holiday wishes and Christmas cheer from
Belledog (a trucker wannabe. Look out 2013!)